Anonymous said: Okay so I've never been subject to rape or assault but I just wanted to say I think its digusting that I, a 15 year old girl, cannot walk around my block in a XL tshirt and running shorts without being wolf whistled at or have a man beep his car horn
I’m with you 100% and I’m sorry this is your experience and the experience of so many women and girls.
"Consensual sex" is just sex. To say that implies that there is such a thing as "non consensual sex", which there isn’t. That’s rape. That is what it needs to be called. There is only sex or rape. Do not teach people that rape is just another type of sex. They are two very separate events. You wouldn’t say "breathing swimming" and "non breathing swimming", you say swimming and drowning.
The conversation around these photos can not be limited to the violent way in which these photos were obtained and the attempts to justify their consumption. We need recognize the reason these types of photos are actively sought after.
There is a very specific reason that men seek leaked nude photos of celebrities. There is a specific reason that ‘revenge porn’ is so popular. The men who consume this media derive pleasure from the humiliation of these women. They derive pleasure from the violation of privacy. They derive pleasure from the lack of consent.
Men specifically seek these types of photos to obtaining pleasure from the sexual assault of women.
- Mod N
I posted last week asking people if they knew of some good resources for male victims of sexual assault. Here is the list people came up with:
As the guy who started the first web forum for male survivors nearly 20 years ago, I can’t tell you how much it means to see resources like these available for other survivors now.
That’s awesome! It’s an honor to hear from someone who has done such important work and I’m so glad this small but mighty list is meaningful to you. Is your forum still up and running? Can we add it to the list? Thanks so much for commenting <3