February 2012
33 posts
Literally, IRL.: Consent →
deltumbles:
lets-blog-about-sex-baby:
Consent is one of the single most important aspect of any relationship, especially one that is sexual or might become sexual. The biggest thing to remember about consent is that it is not ongoing, meaning that a partner may give consent at one…
kaposisarcoma asked: wow. your project is like the best idea ever. i would totally spend money to ship what i was wearing to across the world if i could remember what i actually wore... this is mind blowing. imagine someone that lived in an abusive relationship. they will send you their entire wardrobe. if they don't want to send the actual clothes they could put them on, or make a friend wear them, and send...
“(TW: rape) Am I arguing that girls and women shouldn’t be held responsible for...”
– Emily Maguire, Princesses & Pornstars: Sex, Power, Identity. (via thenewwomensmovement)
A thousand times yes.
(via ivegotnotoleranceforignorance)
STFU, Rape Culture!: Lemme say this again for... →
ethiopienne:
SURVIVORS. DO. NOT. NEED. YOUR. INPUT. [TW: sexual assault, domestic violence] I cannot tell you how many times I’ve found the courage to speak about what happened to me when I was younger only to hear “…you know you should’ve reported that, right?” or “so you didn’t say…
vegansexy asked: I was doing laundry the other day and I came across the dress I wore when I was raped. I haven't done anything with it these past 4 months, and honestly I think about burning it most days so its out of my life. Then I saw your project on my dash and I thought it was perfect! I could send it to you with my story, or whatever you end up doing. Kudos on the idea, it sounds like a powerful...
Anonymous asked: I think in answer to the hierarchy or innocence, you could do a hybrid of Project Unbreakable where you include quotes from the perpetrator with the outfit, either on signs live models hold or just on signs with the mannequins. Stories could also accompany mannequins so that every story is acknowledged so that more factors could be considered at the actual time of viewing, challenging those who...
anotherfem asked: This is amazing. I don't have any resources to offer, but I encourage you to break boundaries and make people think and question how society presents rape victims. My senior project in college was something similar, focusing on circumstances more than clothing (drinking, drugs, dates, etc). It's uncomfortable for a lot of people to discuss openly, but you are truly doing a great...
"What Were You Wearing?" -- A project [tw rape] →
welivedlikegods:
femmesandfamily:
letstalkaboutrape:
(TW: Rape, victim blaming)
I am in the early stages of thinking through a project that I’m interested in pursuing and I need your help to execute it. I want to create a fashion show called ”What were you wearing?” in which the models wear actual clothing that people were…
I really like the idea of this project, but it also exposes one...
sugarcumm asked: I just want to say the "What were you wearing?" project sounds so inspiring! I really hope it takes off and you get the help and funding that will be needed. If it is successful and by any chance you are in or near London, UK please send me a message as I would be more than happy to help. Best of luck!
"What Were You Wearing?" -- A project
(TW: Rape, victim blaming)
I am in the early stages of thinking through a project that I’m interested in pursuing and I need your help to execute it. I want to create a fashion show called ”What were you wearing?” in which the models wear actual clothing that people were wearing when they were raped/sexually assaulted. I envision it being something that would have both live...
(TW: rape, victim blaming) Time for a revolution... →
sexismandthecity:
Every part of our society seems to be infected by prejudicial attitudes to rape; from the justice secretary’s comments about rape last year, to Facebook pages that promote sexual violence, to the casual use of rape jokes by top comedians and the outpouring of misogyny on male university students’ websites.
This is what my life is about!
I have a rage headache from this birth control...
SO. MUCH. RAGE.
Have I ever had “ANY unwanted/undesired physical... →
tahlalaliaaa:
***TRIGGER WARNING*** Rape culture, coercion, general grossness of the unwanted touching kind
face-down-asgard-up:
moniquill:
thebaddominicana:
Earlier in this pregnancy, I filled out my “Initial Health History” form for prenatal and birth care. You know: check the box if you’ve experienced severe headaches, diabetes, all sorts of things. After the usual “Emotional abuse,”...
Students Active for Ending Rape: Database... →
safercampus:
SAFER’s Campus Accountability Project was profiled by Samantha Kimmey in Women’s eNews.
By Samantha Kimmey
WeNews correspondent
Thursday, February 16, 2012
Justice for survivors of campus rape is often weakened by administrators leery of attracting negative press. The Campus…
“On a somewhat serious note today because of a conversation the other day:
I...”
– You Didn’t Thank Me For Punching You in the Face « Views from the Couch (via how-to-kiss-distinctly-american)
This is a really powerful posting about the ways that we socialize our children to accept and normalize interpersonal violence as an expression of love
wholelottadicks asked: can you please remember that trans women exist before you say things like "as a woman" in relation to body parts that some women dont even have
: LOVE... breathing after rape →
sexpositive:
Rape Victim Advocates is partnering with UnSilenced Woman Press to create a chapbook, LOVE…breathing after rape, edited by Veronica Precious Bohanan that addresses life after rape by highlighting the stories of survivors who actively choose to love, heal and thrive. We are seeking survival…
Seems like a cool project if any of my followers want to be part of it!
“I mean, she’s pretty clear in “Fifteen” — really the only song where Taylor...”
– riese, via Why Taylor Swift Offends Little Monsters, Feminists, and Weirdos (via seriouslyamerica)
Oh, you mean I have more to give as a woman than my hymen? Who knew!
“It’s fine that you think body hair is gross. There are lots of things I think...”
– rodmanstreet, girl genius (via creepinthecellar)
“So theories and pontificating aside, let’s add reality to the mix. The reality...”
– Feminist Porn: Sex, Consent, and Getting Off Everything just everything. (via wewantrevolutiongirlstylenow)
The fact that slut-shaming, “Examine your desires!” feminism reinforces patriarchal notions of women’s sexuality should be enough to give pause to feminists.
(via lucypaw)
Why I Will Always Side With Rape Accusers Before... →
she-hulk-smash:
Why I Will Always Side With Rape Accusers Before Knowing the “Facts”
(trigger warning for rape, sexual abuse, rape culture)
14kgoldnyc:
safercampus:
Yesterday, prosecutors decided that they won’t press charges against Greg Kelly, son of police commissioner Ray Kelly. He was accused of raping a woman—I wrote about it here. I sounded pretty sure I believed he was guilty. As...
“In the US, abortion is framed as a deeply moral and highly emotional issue. In...”
– via Feministing, “A new script for talking about abortion”
(thanks to keepyourboehneroutofmyuterus for sending this to me!)
“I don’t care what you’re doing or how old you are or who it’s with, if a girl...”
– My mom, to my younger brother. (via rose-colored-sunglasses)
This is DEFINITELY something that should be included in the sex talk and in sex education.
(via fuckyeahsexeducation)
Parenting win! I hope to live in a world where all parents teach all their children about the importance of consent....
“We do not do trigger warnings. Ever. As a rule. I don’t believe in them, period.”
– Jessica Coen, Editor in Chief of Jezebel.
Trigger warnings are icky! Unlike photos of women being raped, of course. Those are totally OK and can actually drive your entire “feminist light” business model.
I might have to re-write my motto: My feminism will be rape culture friendly! And you know,...
The grammar of assault: Salisbury paper learns why... →
safercampus:
Salisbury Post Editor Elizabeth Cook felt compelled Wednesday to change the headline and lead of a story about an 11-year-old girl who was sexually assaulted.
The headline originally read, “Mother finds daughter performing sex act on man staying in home.” The same language was used in the lead, making it seem as though the man had not committed a crime. After finding out about the...
Seriously, America?: On the Difference Between... →
sexxxisbeautiful:
redheadbouquet:
On the Difference Between Good Dogs and Dogs That Need a Newspaper Smack
Imagine, if you will, a small house, built someplace cool-ish but not cold, perhaps somewhere in Ohio, and inhabited by a dog and a lizard. The dog is a big dog, something…
Fucking THIS!
Delusions of Grandeur: Why Susan G. Komen Yanked... →
Well said.
hotsportsopinions:
Pro-“life” activists are like cancer: they’re ubiquitous, often go undetected until their damage is irreversible, and heartbreakingly detrimental to women’s health.
Which is why it’s so mind-blowing that one of the country’s most powerful and well-known cancer charities has teamed up with…
“Although most boys figure out how to bring themselves to orgasm by age thirteen,...”
–
Dorian Solot, I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide. (via feministhistorian)
The “I love female orgasm” people came to my school a few times… always an interesting session talking about female sexuality
(via newwavefeminism)